Your wedding invitations are the first opportunity to give your friends and family a feel of your big day. Just like weddings invitations can range from very formal, traditional style invitation suites to modern simple single cards.The rules that traditionally governed wedding invitation etiquette are now a thing of the past leaving couples the freedom to include details they like and leave the details they don't.
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For your invitations to be effective there are a few details that you need to communicate to your guests. The date and location are the most important details for your wedding invitations, along with an RSVP date and how you would like your guests to RSVP. If you are choosing to have a wedding website it's also important to include this on your invites so guests can find further information on your big day.
Beyond these important details you have the freedom to choose your wedding invitation wording and inclusions.
Traditionally, a wedding invitation begins with the host's names - most often the couples parents eg “Mr and Mrs Smith along with Mr & Mrs Jones are delighted to invite you to the wedding of..” As couples are funding their own wedding more and more and essentially hosting their own big days, this detail is becoming less popular. More modern wedding invitations will simply start with “You are invited to the wedding of…” or even “Couples names are getting married”.
Even if you and your partner are relaxed on what you would like your guests to wear to your big day it can be helpful to your guests to give them an idea about your style of wedding. Wording of this can be as simple as “Cocktail attire” or “Black tie”.
A separate RSVP card is usually included with your invitations (unless you are asking your guests to RSVP digitally via email or a wedding website). Be sure to ask for your guests dietary requirements on this card. Simple is best when wording an RSVP card “Yes, we will attend and No, we regret we cannot attend” and a space for guests to state their dietarys. Ensure your return address is easy to find so your guests can easily send your RSVPs back to you!
How you chose to word your wedding invitations should be a reflection of the kind of wedding you are hosting and of you and your partner. Make it about the two of you, include your personalities and leave the traditions that don't resonate with you behind!